Saddness

Everyday life throws things our way that can either make us sad, or make us rejoice. Loss of a loved one creates sadness. I have had a lot of sadness in my life.  We are all responsible for how we react to the loss of someone we care deeply about. We can dishonor them by not moving on with our life and staying in the past. By this I mean dwelling on how they died, and not thinking of how God swept them up in his arms and soothed them and took them to a better place. Our loved ones don't want us to sit in a chair surrounded by things. That is not what relationships are built on. It was a loving touch or look or the laughter, the first born child and the wonderment of discovering a new flower poking it's head up towards the sky. Remembering people who have gone before us should be done with joy. The joy of the life that they lived, and how they saw things. And no matter how long they have been gone, they will never be forgotten. So as I sit here, I give thanks that the people whom I loved are looking down at me and know I have made the choice by keeping them in my heart. And not by their worldly stuff. Stuff is stuff it doesn't define us. How we live is what defines us. I choose to live my life full of the good memories that people leave behind, and the lessons that they taught me. I hold them in my heart and not in my hand.